MeL's Point... And She Does Have One (December 20th, 2008)

By MeL on Saturday, December 20, 2008 - 23:10

What We Wish For

Today is December 20th, which means it’s time for a new edition of “MeL’ Point”. Usually, when column day approaches, I already have something in mind that I want to write about, and I had for this edition, too. But while writing it, I realized that it’s not working.

I wanted to write about all the wishes that we have during Christmas season, both Christmas wishes and wishes for the new year. Most people wish to either stay healthy or, if they’re not, to get better. Others wish for their jobs to be safe, especially in an economic crisis like the one we’re having right now, and for the well-being and safety of their loves ones. People who are lonely wish for company, people who are stressed out wish for more quiet times, people who are heart-broken wish for someone to heal their pain. But those aren’t any specifically lesbian wishes, and since this is supposed to be a lesbian column, that subject just didn’t seem to work.

So all I’m left with is to write about what I wish for, and since I’m a lesbian, I hope it counts as a valid subject for this column. ;-) I myself belong to the “stressed out” category, and I absolutely totally wish for more quiet times. Each year, just before Christmas, it seems like people suddenly realize that it’s not only Christmas time, but it’s also the end of the year, and there’s SO MUCH that needs to be done THIS YEAR and just can’t wait for the new year. Just once, I’d like to be able to enjoy a calm and peaceful holiday season, but I haven’t found out yet how to accomplish this, other than take several weeks off and return to work after Christmas. But that’s just a short-term wish, probably caused by the fact that I had to work late yesterday, very, very late.

When I thought about my wishes for the new year today, I thought about the past years and what was good about them. Even though I had some tough times, 2007 was one of the best years I ever had, and 2008 wasn’t that bad, either. So what made those years special? It was a mixture of things, but one of them was that I stopped thinking so much and just went for the things that I wanted, that I came up with the courage to do some things for the first time of my life, and that I tried to not be someone else, but just me.

So, that’s my wish for 2009, not just for me, but for all of you: That we’ll be able to find the courage, strength and freedom to be who we are and to do what we want to do and thereby, maybe, are able to make some of our wishes come true.

Merry Christmas everyone, and a Happy New Year. :-)

Merry Christmas

As always, I'm curious - what do you wish for in 2009? Let me know in the comments.

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my wish this year...

Submitted by Kymberlie on December 21, 2008 - 00:05.

is to be looking forward to 2010 as much as I am 2009

ok...my wishes...

Submitted by frosch411 on December 21, 2008 - 02:13.

first...yup I'm one of the heartbroken and stressed ones.. so go figure...

but this is actually summing it up nicely: that we’ll be able to find the courage, strength
and freedom to be who we are and to do what we want to do and thereby,
maybe, are able to make some of our wishes come true. Well said MeL! We all have the potential...just have to make use of it...cometh the time!

All the best peeps!

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to the point...

Submitted by maxime68 on December 21, 2008 - 09:42.

I'm pretty sure, that this subject fits nicely into this column.

Let me join the ranks of folks feeling stressed out, though my personal reasons might be different.
2008 marked the year of my 10th anniversary at my job, and on top of that I also turned 40. Yet I must admit, that I thought more about the first point than about the second. Career wise those last two years have been quite successful but at the same time I've had this feeling of turning away more and more from what I'd really like to do.
Don't worry, I won't bother you with the details ;-) The important thing is, that I've decided to be looking for a new job next year, a job I can see myself still doing in ten years.

I guess, my expectations for 2009 are quite high, especially since I'm still not sure, what I want. But things won't be happening on their own, so I've got to start somewhere.

Dear Santa,

Submitted by Katina on December 21, 2008 - 10:47.

I hope you'll forgive me my failure to buy a Christmas tree for the past few... ever, and listen to my Christmas wishes anyway.

Continuing with Maxime's theme up there, I'm wishing for direction workwise. It'd be nice to feel like I'm going where I hoped to go when I graduated. I want to Do Good, dammit! (Sorry, I didn't mean to curse in front of your holiness.)

I'd also be pleased if eurOut continued to grow in 2009 at the rate is's been growing in 2008. That's not too much to ask, is it?

And of course, I'd kindly ask you to take a second look at all the wishes MeL lists in her column up there. They look pretty good to me, too.

Merry days,

Katina

Nicely put :)

Submitted by kreigen on December 21, 2008 - 13:39.

The end of 2007 was pretty much awful for me, so this year I'm feeling much more positive about everything. Just got to get all the coursework done...or maybe Santa could do it for me!

Loved the last paragraph and couldn't agree more, 'courage, strength and freedom' for all of us :)

Happy Christmas!

I give it all to you, letting go of me, reaching as I fall, I know it's already over.

[Red:Already Over]

2009 is just around the corner

Submitted by Little G on December 21, 2008 - 16:52.

2008 has been a rough year for me - health wise and financially (I will be able to cover the hospital bills, but still...) I'm not complaining tho, as I have a roof over my head, a job, and family and friends who care for/about me. My only wish for 2009 is to have a calmer year.

Happy Holidays and may good fortune come to y'all!